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How often is reasonable for grandparents to see grandchildren? I know Grandparents don't have 'rights' to see grandchildren but my problem isn't that serious (yet) and hopefully never will be. My partner doesn't want to spend our weekends seeing parents and in laws, but my parents love seeing our son. But they only get to see him for about an hour or two every 3-4 weeks. Is it unreasonable they should see him more?
One of those unanswerable questions i feel.
I also wonder if you have to do the same for each set of grandparents?
One tip i've found is being a planned about it or you always can feel on the back foot... What do you think Don?
we bought a web cam and now we skpy as all grandparents live miles away - its not ideal but it helps
To be clear, my problem is probably more of a marriage problem. Bascially my parents would like to see our son (who is 1) more often and I think her parents would too. Both sets of parent live about 10-15 miles away. My wife doesn't seem to think thay they need to see him more than once a month. But I think grandparents play a really important role. I'm happy for parents to just drop by anytime, or see them every week. She doesnt agree.
I just wondered what the general consesus was. It depends on individuals I know. But more people I know who have kids, their parents are really involved. I just don't feel ours are.
Don - have you been able to talk about it with ur spouse? Is there some issue that sparked this? Where you close to the parents and in-laws b4 your son's birth?
I know my parents said some things in the past that really hurt my wife (& me) and it took time heal that.... i'm sure it did have an effect on how often we saw them...
Life is so busy though it might just be about that?
Well, we do kind of talk about it. I know her problem is that she thinks my parents 'don't know how to look after him' and will do things that she wouldn't like. She is very very protective in general. Doesn't really let him out of her sight. Another issue altogether. Since he was born we have not had a night out together because she doesn't want to let anyone else baby sit. he is always with myself or my wife. The protectiveness is really the root of the problem I think.
Very tricky area - my wife is an introvert, so doesn't like lots of visitors (or going out) anyway. Over the years she is slowly becoming more comfortable seeing my parents.
My parents live 2.5 hours away so visits are not frequent (probably once every 3 months), but the visits are more frequent than they used to be.
The really interesting twist is that we see her parents even less and they are 1 hour away...
I don't think our kids loose out overtly, but would definately benefit from more. The thing I really noticed last time I was with my parents is that they get time to just "play" with out children - whereas we are often organising things for our children... 😥
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