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hi at mo i see my kids every sat 10 to 6 she was meeting with kids as not want and at first she said i cant go to house last week she said got to pick up from house me and my ex can not get on she started shouting at me that she wants to kill me and her brother wants to do me in to the next door neighbour then rings police on me for no reason so it just a set up to get in to trouble any ideas how we can swap over without all this rubbish i dont wanna see her just kids thank you
Hi There,
You are stuck at the moment as it seems she won't meet you and you will need to go to the house.
The only thing you can do is grow skin like a Rhino and when she starts acting up at the front door just don't respond, collect your children and walk away, same on return, if she is stopping them from leaving do the same don't respond walk away and log each account with as much detail as possible.
If you reply and get drawn into an argument as unfair as it is, you are at her front door so you will possibly come off worse.
If she stops you taking the children then you need to look at resolving this either through mediation or if that doesn't work court.
The one thing is though you have to try to keep your children in mind through all of this and them seeing or hearing these kind of threats against you will do them a lot of harm.
Darren
If your phone has a voice recorder, I'd switch that on before you walk up to the door (if not, if it has video, start that, but put the phone in your pocket as you don't want to inflame the situation - the voice recording should suffice). Above all, keep your cool - she may be trying to provoke you into a situation where you end up getting arrested, which is something you don't want for all sorts of reasons.
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