Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hey all need serious advice if possible.
Well ive broken up with my ex partner for 3 years, we were together for 8 years. i have two children with her my son is 5 and my daughter is 3. I have a new partner i been with for 2 1/2 years we have a 6 month old son. My ex partner recently had her 3rd child with her new boyfriend. She keeps telling the kids that her new son will be beating my my new son
Since her and her boyfriend got together things have changed for the worst he used to text me threatening messages, texting my partner horrible abusive messages saying shes ugly, fat and abusing my family on facebook. I have my kids every other weekend and I love it but now my kids come to me and say how her new partner says if your daddy cuts your hair your not going to see him again and he will also take away his toys. I find it very hurtful him threatening the kids that they wont see me. At one point my son didnt want to come to my house because he was worried he would get his toys taken away. They are trying to make the kids call him daddy and brainwashing them making me sound low and hes a better person. I get abusive texts from her saying im a rubbish dad i call my self a dad then she starts abusing my family aswell. Im not allowed to know their GP, where they go to school or even where they live. My son had sports day no one was there to cheer him on. Its like other posts on here women with your kids try control you using them. I feel like i have no power or say because its her way or no way. Its got to the point that i think about walking away even tho I wouldnt.
Has anyone got any advice. Mediation doesnt work she attended the first appointment the canceled
Hope to hear soon!
Hi there,
Welcome to the site,
With respect of the txt you recieve make sure you keep them all so you have proof of what you get sent, If you wanted to go down the legal route with them then it would be classed as domestic harrasment from what I've been told the police would warn them off and then press cherges if they continued. I would think long and hard about that option though as it will clearly strain things even more between you and your ex and your children would get caught up even more.
I guess where your children are involved all you can do is while they are with you ensure they know you will always be there for them and support them.
It's a really tough one to advise on what to do about what the children are told as anything you do could make it worse, though this shouldn't be the case it sounds as though it will be.
It's not something i have had experience with myself but hopefully someone else will have some ideas to share.
Darren
If contact hasn't yet been reduced by your ex, then there isn't much you can do by way of a contact order. The advice Darren has given above is very good, and the only other thing I can suggest is to establish some way your son can keep in contact with you and to give him ways to cope. Walking away isn't going to help him any more than it helps you as it sounds like he really does need the support you can offer.
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.