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Hi all,
I am new to the forum and have been looking for some help and came across this site, sorry to post something like this as my first post!
My marriage is a bit on the rocks, since our baby was born 7 months ago all we seem to do is argue and bicker at each other over the littlest of things. We are constantly at each others throats and I dont know where to turn.
Dont get me wrong I love my wife to bits and we have been married for 18 months but this is driving us both crazy. She is great with our son and we both love him to bits but the fighting and arguing is not the way to bring up a child, we both know that. I dont know what to do for the best. I really hope someone can pass on some words of wisdom.
Hi Redmen
Sounds like you are having a tough time at the moment - and many marriages go through some difficulty after children arrive.
What are you arguing about? is it anything specific?
When was the last time the two of you went out together and had an adult night out? Chance to focus on you?
Hi there,
Also new! here is my two pence worth.
First of all I think it is always really difficult to have an objective view when you are going through a tough time. I expect your thoughts are quite puddled. My wife and I have had similar challenges but to be honest that is to be expected, having a baby takes a huge adjustment in both your lives.
None of us really know the "best" or "right!" way of doing anything, especially with our most precious thing - our child. But the thing I have come to realise is that all we both want is the best for our daughter and Im sure you both want the best for your child.
May I ask what you are aruging over? We used to and still do argue/bicker of the most random things - why huggies over pampers - I think this she thinks that...... The problem is at the time of the argument you never look at it with a clear mind and that is where the rot can seep in and battle commences!
I think the best thing to do is go for a walk, leave the room take yourself out of the situation and park the argument, bury your head in the sand, change the subject. Then when a calm time arises in your house approach your frustrtaions then in a calm manner I find that works really well, as you can both then discuss the problem find a resolution and move on. And that is the most important thing, always move on......... Forgive and forget life is too short to carry on the same old arguments.
I also think if you can; get some couple time, it is really easy to lose sight of who you both were before you were Mummy and Daddy - do something you used to do together before and get the laughter going again. Really is the best medicine.
What I would say as a final point is the most passionate and in love people argue! Its normal.
Good luck with it all.
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