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Hi,
I'm slowly going insane and need help from others with knowledge. My partner and I split two years ago, I left the family home at my partners request. I had contact with my children.A new partner moved in with my ex, they had a child and the new partner started locking the children in their bedroom at night to avoid disturbance. I advised social services, they visited and my ex partner, her new partner and my four children disappeared within a week. I have tried and tried to locate them, her family will not tell me where they are and all social networks are of no help. I have legal parental responsibility for my children (all born after 2003).
Is anyone able to advise where I should start to try and get some sort of contact, find where they live.
My children were told I no longer wished to see them.
My ex and her partner are both on full social benefits and therefore have not needed child maintenance which I would be more than happy to give if only I could have some sort of contact awareness of my children.
There doesn't seem to be much advice for children who disappear overnight - not surprising really!
Any help or similar experiences would be appreciated, Peter
Speak to Children's services again - I would tell them that you fear for your children's safety bearing in mind the disappearance after their contact. If your ex is on benefits, then I would have thought that CS should be able to track them down.
The social services wont help. The best bet would be to get the police involved and get them to look for them . I had a similar issue a few years back no feed back from ex despite repeated requests for updates on my child's welfare spoke to SS they werent bothered and advised me to phone the police and they would do a welfare check which they did.
You could apply to the court for a Seek and Find Order along with a Contact Order.
A Seek and Find Order is a court order made to locate a childs whereabouts. The order can be applied for under section 33 of the Family Law Act 1986. This act allows the court to order any person it has reason to believe may have relevant information about the location of a child, to disclose that information to the court.
You would need a form C4, within this form you would list the names and contact details for any people sho you believe may know of your childrens whereabouts. This might include your ex partners family members, their employer, or even organizations such as GP surgeries, the Department of Work and Pensions, Social Services, the DVLA etc.
It would assist both you and the judge if you write a brief position statement, try to keep it to two or three pages, setting out briefly why you are applying for the Seek and Find Order and what other orders you are applying for, for example a contact order.
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