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My last memory was my 3month old daughter sleeping on my chest..Me and her mum had already split but I would baby sit .Then out of the blue her mum meets a guy that liked to smoke the funny stuff and news is they are getting married not with my daughter i think so I start with the legals of trying to get custody .
Even after a long search I never saw my little girl again then by chance and a bit of P.I. work I found her dispite all the lies from her mother and step dad at 16 she found her real dad was out there and after leaving notes in people doors that apeared with my surname in the phone book I was ex directory she all bar gave up.
I a steady relationship she went on to have her own family and not long after that we finally got in touch her mother still trying to get her to change her name to her step dads at the age of 22 ,you may think this sounds silly but here you have a girl that has been lied too all her life,her mother and step dad have controlled her and she has been left timid and with little confidence,our latest battle is that her mother and step dad threaten her that they are going for custody of her children another mind game to control her and all because she wants to see her real dad.
My daughter never asked for her life to be like this as a parent i feel i have really let her down.
Hi Niro,
I'm really glad you and your daughter have found each other again. What a great feeling that must be for you both.
My daughter never asked for her life to be like this as a parent i feel i have really let her down.
The thing is not to feel guilty for what has gone on in the past, from what you say you had very little control over it anyway. You can't change what has already happened - just make sure you're there for her now.
If both of you are at all worried about you're ex applying for custody then you should chat with our friends at the Childrens Legal Centre, they can give you free advice on any child law issues and are excellent. You can contact them by either posting details and your question to our legal board on the forum or for an immediate response and advice call their advice line on 08088 020 008.
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