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Hi all,
I'd like guys to ask you for your advise. I moved to the UK last August to live with my wife and baby girl. I also have a 4 years old son who lives abroad and I've managed to buy a ticket to go and see him for 3 weeks but I am in a low salary and have not got much money to spend in hotels and expensive trips with him. I get to see him few weeks every year and it is very hard to be away from him/
I was hoping to spend most of the time at the house where he lives with my ex cause he has all his toys and a big playing area to keep ourselves busy, but his mum has told me that I am not allowed at her house 🙁 so now apart from paying a hotel I need to take him out every morning and find things to do somewhere else 🙁
I'd love guys if you can help me with ideas of what to do. to keep my son busy and entertained during those 3 weeks without spending a fortune!! I have found things like scavenger hunt in a park, but I really want to spend every day of those 3 weeks next to him and when I say low budget, I mean it!!! 🙁
Thanks in advance to everyone.
Hi, when you say abroad is it a warm/hot climate. what sort of area, is there a park. Is the hotel you are staying in close by ?
We have had to be inventive with my grandaughter on our twice a month visits but not three weeks at a time ! I think for what its worth the mother is being mean in the circumstances.
pack things like , sticky books, felt tips, paper. go to the pound shop here and buy coloured card, a prix stick glue and art craft things . have a look in charity shops before you go, get some dinky cars , action figures. my GD loves sticking these coloured feathers on card. you can get those little pot things you paint there a pound. play doh is a good one, anything that will give you one to one contact. Ok now outside, football , the park, make sure you get some drinks and snacks. Is there a swimming pool near by. research the area she lives in. My son downloaded a couple of apps on his phone for her the age group, she liked that.
Hi, it is warm, there is a park close to his house, the hotel is 15 mins on a bus. I tried to find a hotel close to his house but there aren't many in his town.
I tried to persuade her to change her mind, to give me a hand cause all I want is to spend time with my son, but she couldnt care less we ended up arguing 🙁 cause is frustrating her lack of cooperation. She says all she cares is about our son and his welfare but I dont think that by making my life harder she is thinking about the kid!
Thank you very much for the ideas!
Hi, try not to argue as she might stop you going. I know how frustrating it can be. But it might be better to take him away from the house, treat it like an adventure
Thats great it will be warm. as the hotel got a pool ? 15 minutes by bus is great I would def take him back to the hotel and do some one to one things. Take some photos to show him of his family, Nans grandads etc. take lots of photos of your son and you . Take a fisbie, think of anything you can pack thats not heavy that you already have. Have you a lap top, if so take some kiddie dvds so you can snuggle up watching them.
If you google map her area you can see whats around, if its a warm climate there will be outside pools .
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