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I went to pick up my son from nursery tonight but his mum had already been to get him. I went to her house wondering why she had picked him up to be told that she was keeping him until after we had been to court.
She has done this so that when she moves she can move his school without me being able to stop her. She has no thought for our son or his relationship with me or the upset he will feel to be taken from me and his friends. She is playing games with our lives and there is nothing I can do about it.
I get the benefits for him and I work term time so i can be with him during the holidays while his mum is free to work.
I'm just lost, hurt, and scared. I've emailed my solicitor but they are closed till tomorrow.
I did nothing wrong but be there for my son, to care for him and love him.
Hi Ive just read your other posts, it seems like you were almost expecting this. How old is your son and how long has he lived with you. I think because you have his benefit he will be classed as living with you. I know what I would do, phone the school and say he has an appointment with the dentist and pick him up at lunch time tomorrow , tell your ex she cant have any contact till after court , Im presuming you are going for residency. Inform the school and the police. Untill one of you have the court order you can both have him but its not in your sons best interest to be in a tug of war. If it takes a while to go to court and reports etc she will have him with her for a while and they may well give her residency.
...You should be able to apply for an emegency residency order, and you could be in court as quickly as 24hrs after applying to the court. Ask your solicitor about this tomorrow. I think the suggestions ak57 has made are good ones...pick him up early tomorrow, or the next time he is in nursery, and then dont let him out of your sight until you have the residency order!
Does he have his own bedroom at his mothers... and does she have clothes and everything he needs day to day?
You could try calling the police on 101 and asking them where you stand as the parent with care who is in receipt of the benefits, as she went to the nursery early and removed him without your knowledge or permission, and is refusing to return him.
I wish you well, please keep us posted 🙂
Thanks for the replies, I will keep you informed as to how it goes.
He has to share a bedroom at his mothers, my son is 7 and he shares the small room with his stepbrother who is 17. She has clothes for him.
I'd love to go to the school tomorrow (who are behind me) and take him to my aunts house in Scotland but how would he feel? i'd be worse than she is.
I will see what the solicitor has to say and hopefully an emergency order is possible.
She is not putting him first, she has no respect for his or my wishes.
...Just be careful, as ak57 says, the longer she has him the more likely the courts are to grant her residency. Act quickly.
If I were you I would put a call in to the police too.
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