[Solved] just split up with wife

Hi Tony

Sorry to hear about you situation, it's not going to be easy I'm afraid.

Best advice I can give is to try to keep it amicable as possible and keep up as much contact as possible with your son.

I would also suggest that you stay positive - many people have trial separations and get back together again.

That is of course asuming you want to?

I would suggest give it a few weeks then maybe ask your partner out on a date - maybe a visit to the cinema and a pizza.

As for temporary accomodation - is there no-one you could stay with for the time being? Friends or family who would put you up?

I'm sorry you and your wife are on a trial separation. Did you have any warning that she was considering this? If not, and her decision came out of the blue, then I wonder what brought it about. Has there been anything else going on for her lately or did something happen to influence her around the time she made this decision?

If you can think of anything that may have influenced her, then do try to talk to her about it and ask if she has truly thought this decision through. You have your son to consider and children are always the ones who suffer most when a couple split up. Ask him if she will give the marriage another chance, even if it is only for the child’s sake, at least to start with.

I know it's not an easy time for you but keep up the communication between you and try to keep things amicable. It will pay off in the long run.

I hope this helps.

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Hi Tony, thanks for being so open and honest. Regarding your house situation, I guess you've looked into what financial support there is for you ie housing benefit etc if you're not working? Do you know if you're entitled to any?

Other than that, it sounds like you're doing the right things. I'd just encourage you to keep reminding your ex how important it is for a father to play a role in their childs life.

Good luck.

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