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Hi, I am having major problems with my little girls mother who is the main carer in relation to maintenance. I am very lucky that I have my child 3 nights a week. I currently pay £160 per month and based on the CSA calculator this is what I should be paying based on my earnings. My ex partner and her husband earn 3 times what I do and live a very lavish lifestyle. This is one of the reasons I get my child 3 nites a week as it allows them to socialise. I also have to provide clothes, a nice home, food and other activities to my little girl. I also spend a lot of money on a monthly basis on Tutition, Singing lessons, and Leisure Centre Membership. The mother does not do anything with my little girl and does not contirbute to any expenditure which I incur in trying to improve the childs education and by letting her enjoy days out. I currently spend about £200 on extra activities per month. Do I have any rights in reducing the money I pay to my ex partner. Can the money I spend not be taken into account. The £160 I currently give to my ex partner would allow me to take my wee girl on a holiday once a year. I understand I am very fortunate in the access I have with my child, but it seems very unfair that I am expected to pay maintenance to my ex partner who doesnt need the money and does nothing with my child.
Hi There,
If the CSA calculator works you payments out at £160 a month then unfortunately that is what you will need to continue paying, I know this seems unfair as they earn more than you but it is what is currently in place.
Darren
Hi Darren, yes it is unfair. I am struggling to pay for eveything and provide my child with extras that wil help in the future. I am doing and paying for things my ex partner wont do and it is very unfair. Its also hard for me to watch them living the highlife while I struggle to pay 160 a month and everything else. Thanks for your reply.
Hi There,
I know what you mean I've had a battle with my ex for nearly 3 years where I have paid over what I should and she has been out 1-2 times a week for meals and all sorts when I couldn't afford to do the same.
Darren
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