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Hi there. I s'pose I should start by pointing out I am one of the lucky 1 in 10 lone parents that is in fact lucky enough to have my son resident with me.
My wife left almost 2 years ago stating issues that had never been discussed by us in the course of our ten years together. Oddly she moved in with her old friend, who recently got back in touch, and they are now together...oh how convenient?
Well now we are so far down the line that she has seemingly got bored of the daily visits. I would drive him to and from her new partners house daily. Now she sees him once every two weeks. No excuses, or phone calls during the week or even texts to ask how he is getting on at school. What to do there??
Obviously to make life difficult I moved on. Have been happier for the last 12 months. So has my son.
I just worry that things will change when I file for divorce. Whether the last 2 years will count for anything or if the Scottish Courts will just take my son away and put him somewhere he is not happy. She "suffers" from depression - I am not making light of depression, I have friends who are real sufferers that do not have episodes to coincide with when they want their own way...She is also with someone who does not want kids and does not interact all to well with my son.
Anyway...this is my situation. Feel free to ask any questions, etc.
Hi, why do you think if you filed for divorce she would want your son back. I cant see it as she doesnt want him now and her new partner doesnt. I wouldnt worry about it, just file away and be happy with your new lady .
How old is your son ?
Hi there and welcome 🙂
You've had your son for the last two years, she left you both and he is settled with you. I cant see any reason whatsoever for any court to feel the need to intervene.
Go for your divorce and have the agreement for you to be the Resident parent written into it. I'm sure everything will be just fine, so try not to worry, just enjoy your son, he's happy so you must be doing a great job! 🙂
I just get the fear when I read all the literature that is all one sided about part time dads and residency of the children.
I have been very lucky and hopefully it contnues. Thanks for the positive words.
Oh and my son is 5. Just started school in August. 🙂
...My son has Residency of his son, won in court last september, he's 5 too! There are plenty of positive results out there, its just that we only usually get to hear about the stories where theres a problem! 🙂
With the name you have chosen as your username, there is really only one thing to say - Don't Panic 😀
Your son has been resident with you for 2 years, and your ex has had reducing contact of her own choice. A court has to have a very good reason to take a child from a home where he is settled and place him somewhere else - basically that means there have to be real welfare concerns for your son where he is at the moment, and that's obviously not the case, so it isn't going to happen.
If you haven't already started, make sure you keep a comprehensive record of all contact that happens, and all conversations and texts (transcribe the texts - you may need it for the court, and phones have a habit of losing them), and if you don't have a record at the moment, try to remember and write down when the contact has occurred in the past (but write in your record that it is a recollection and may not be 100% accurate)
May be worth having a word with the Scottish Child Law Centre - www.sclc.org.uk
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