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Hi this is my first post so please bare with me.
i have a little boy who is 7 years old, me and his mother (we were not married) split up 3 years ago.
i see him 2 days a week every week. one week thursday and friday and the following week saturday , sunday. i also pay mantainence every month to his mother. all going well so far you would think!
problem being, his mother has started to become very bitter about a relationship i have been in for a couple of years now with my current partner.
on the days i have him she treatens to come and pick him up, stop me from seeing him. she demands more money, insist on me dropping him off at silly time, just to make things hard.
is there a way i can get a agreement, that states what money i pay (this can be reviewed each year), what days i have him,
and woud this aggreement mean that i don;t have to change days or time when i have him as that is what has been agreed.
thankfully, my little boy is brilliant and us splitting up has not effected him too much, he love us both, but i just want to spend quality time with him and not worry about his mother coming around to collect him at any given time, just because she isnlt happy at that moment.
any help or advice please
Hi Ras
Sounds like you are doing a great job keeping up with your son & sorting things out with your ex with maintenance. I currently pay maintenance through CSA but there was something in the news this week about things changing & being given the option of coming up with private arrangements. I figure you would have to have a good relationship with the ex to manage this (probably won't suit me) but either way you want something in writing so you both know what is what. There is a new website to do with these changes - try www.cmoptions.org - looks like they are free so worth a look.
Let me know how you get on?
There's also a new DadTalk article about Child maintenance options - would be worth a read.
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