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Ok I am new to this and just need a bit of help
I was put into prison for Fraud a year and a half ago and have since been released. My wife was fantastic throughout sending me letters every week visiting me every week and due to the low risk nature of the offence I was home for 9 days out of every 28 spending time with my family and appreciating them more than ever. I have a fantastic relationship with my daughter and thought everything was fine. In May of this year my wife met a friend at the gym who is a single mother and began telling her how great single life is on benefits and how she has the freedom to come and go as she pleases. She even took my wife to one of her abused women groups. My wife suddenly came convinced that she was an emotionally abused wife and has taken out a non molestation order on me with the most horrific lies one can imagine. These include accusing me of making her have [censored] for groceries (if it wasnt so serious it would be funny) not letting her out of the house and refusing to give her money. Now fortunately all of this can be disproved with the content of the letters that she has written to me along with emails from before my conviction and photos of our lives together.
She has also taken out a prohibited steps order stopping me seeing my child stating that I have not seen her in two years.
I am going to court to get this overturned and to go for shared custody of my daughter. I have since seen them in the street my daughter came running up to me but her mother just grabbed her and told her not to speak to me.
The question is has anyone had experience of getting a non molestation order overturned, is it difficult and with the contact order can a judge force the mother to allow the father to see the child.
I am also very concerned that the mother has had a mental breakdown as she has also pushed away all of her friends and is acting very strange.
Any help would be appreciated
I noticed there is not a reply to this.
Unfortunately, I don't have any experience of this but I can offer some advice to you. The government don't like seeing families separated for no reason and certainly think it's better for kids to see both parents if possible so unless you have severe reason why your daughter shouldn't see you then no judge is likely to rule against you in that sense.
The fact you kept the letters (presumably because they were the closest contact you had with your family while inside) will play into your hands. If you have proof then again I wouldn't worry too much.
Now here comes my other opinion, it sounds like you love your wife very much and that this is not just about your daughter. If you feel that she is not in a fit state to make decisions or that you are scared for her well-being then you need to contact somebody about it. It's not fair seeing someone you love going through that kind of pain but there are people who can help. Have you spoken to any of her friends and raised this concern with them. Ignore the fact that they may take her side and try to get some information from them.
I'm sorry I can't be more help, it must be horrible.
Thanks for picking this up OlisDad, I don't know how this was missed - happens sometime I guess.
Jonny, you need some specialist legal advice on this, I don't think it's anything the CCLC would be able to advise on regarding the NMO. I would suggest that you speak to the Citizens Advice Bureau to see if they are able to assist, but post back here on issues specific to contact as we can help on that.
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