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Hi,
If anyone could give me advice this will be extremely appreciated.
My son has just turned 1 yrs old, and my ex partner separated from me just before Xmas. We had verbally agreed that i would have Harrison on average 3 nights a week (2 nights 1st week, 4 nights following week) ... To which i signed a document to support this agreement, however she made no intention of signing it.
Upon this, i called CSA to ask how much maintenance i need to provide in which i informed Harrion's mum, to which she responded negatively and asked for more money, i said thats what CSA stated to pay.. My ex-partner then informed me that she was would reduce the number of nights i would have him, based on the payment mechanics, and later that month in Jan claimed it was now related to more stability for Harrison. I have asked for her to sign doc.
Although i make regular monthly payments, and still see Harrison on a regular basis (2 nights a week), there is still a lot of resentment and amnosity from Harrison's mum which leads to comments being raised that are derogatory towards me, to which these comments are made in front of Harrison, among other comments she has made around her taking access away from me.
I have been to mediation, but unfortunately Harrison's mum has refused to go, and therefore i have received the FM1 form.
Therefore, im looking at whats best for Harrison, and want to request joint custody to ensure there is some form of legal and agreeable document to mitgate Harrison's mum to stop me seeing him. I am not applying for joint custody this to get back at Harrison's mum, as she is a good mum, but i want fair parental involvment as im a hands on dad...
I have got the C100 documents.. i have a safe home, i work full time (but potential for my job to be more flexible in working hours to meet around timetables for Harrison, i have also got good parents that can offer to look after Harrison for a day (if im at work) on a weekly basis, therefore here are my questions:-
- Given the brief above, does this sound feasible
- If joint custody is successful, does this impact CSA payments (although i would be willing to continue payments at current rate, so not to hinder any provision for Harrison when he is in the care of his mum (as she is not working and on benefits)
- Is there anything unique i should include in the application to help assist the process
- Any drawbacks for this requests
Many thanks to anyone assisting.
Hi
It sounds very reasonable to me, though I have no experience of joint custody. Have you read yoji's guides at the top of the legal section? Additionally, can you confirm that you are representing yourself so that we can ask the CCLC for assistance.
I have read that document for Yoji, which boosts my confidence a little, and i was considering representing myself..
What is the CCLC?? and how can they help?
The CCLC is the children's legal centre and can give qualified legal advice as long as you don't have a solicitor representing you.
There's a link for them at the bottom of this site, or you can post questions on here and we'll ask them to give advice on here.
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