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Hi all just want some views to mull over if poss...
I have 2 biological children that i see regularly...no problems there (been to court and sorted it)...
Met a beautiful women a couple of years ago....but throughout that time i have always had the feeling that I am no more than a cash cow for her children. They don't see their bio father and I have done more for them in 2 years than any other man on the planet...
Her daughter used to see her dad until it became too dangerous (he was taking her to not very nice places and mixing with drug dealer friends). The mother decided to end the relationship between her daughter (11yrs) and her daughters father. The daughter was also told what her father was like i.e. a user, violent, druggie etc whereas I am non of those things...
The 2 younger twins (9yrs) call me dad because they want to - however, when the mother refers to me, she calls me Richard - not dad.
The 11yr old (going on 27) is rude, back chats and is a handful, however...when the daughter back chats her mother I always tell the daughter that is rude and not to do it.....but when this happens to me, i get no support whatsoever....
Today I asked the daughter to do something and of course she was a handful, she then said "you are not my dad". Now i don't blame the 11yr old as she is just that - 11...however the mother who was there said nothing. When i pressed her why she refuses to support me and allows this to happen, her response was "she isn't your daughter".
At this i left as i feel like i am nothing more than just a cash cow to 3 children whom i had taken on....
Let me know what you think please
Richard
That's a tricky one - I would say that it's a conversation you need to have with your partner at a time away from the heat of an argument. Ultimately, only you can know if it feels right or not, and that your partner is giving you the same support that you are giving her.
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