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Hi guys,
So this girl I was dating is now pregnant. Since she told me she hasn't seen me on her own which is about 7-8 weeks now. The only time she'll meet up is at a restaurant with her family, which has been two occasions, then she goes straight home after. But she still says that we have a relationship.
She doesn't want me involved with the prenatal and antenatal appointments(and I don't know if I'm entitled to go or not - she just said that she'll keep me updated) and won't let me in to help her emotionally. She won't even meet up to discuss how she'll cope financially, what payments she expects from me etc. I feel like I'm being kept at arms length when I want to be involved. I want to get excited about being a dad but it doesn't feel like it's real or happening.
I feel like everything is in limbo and I'm worried that I'm being excluded.
Hi there and welcome 🙂
Are you able to make contact with her by phone or email? It might be worth writing to her to explain how you're feeling and how much you'd like to support her and get involved....tell her how excited you feel and that you just want to be a part of it all.
Pregnancy can be a difficult time for a woman, with all sorts of hormonal surges and emotional upheavals happening...try and be patient, tell her how you feel and be there if she needs you.
As far as rights at this stage, you are really at the mercy of the expectant mum, and if shes bent on excluding you then theres not much you can do about it sadly.
Hopefully things will settle down and she will start to involve you more. Good luck with it all 🙂
Unfortunately, Nannyjane is right. There's not much you can do if you aren't married to the girl, but don't be afraid to fight for your child. The legal system may not have your back, but if you really want to be this kid's father, then you gotta fight for it. Let her know how you feel, and try and negotiate something with her. If it gets really bad, talk to a lawyer and find out what your limited options are.
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