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I have 2 beautiful kids (4&6), me and their mother separated 7 months ago. She has a new boyfriend whom my girls like, not as a dad
but as a person in their lives. Me and mum have an agreement, nothing legal, for shared residence. So I get the girls 3 times a week
and anytime she wants to go out.
My wife is so angry the only way we can communicate is by text.
There is no problem providing I use one word. Yes.
If I question anything, regarding the girls, she flies into a rage and threatens to take them back to Newcastle - 310 miles away.
She has vilified me to anyone who will listen.
I know I sound weak, but my daughters are everything to me.
I'd like to drop in "Prohibitive Steps Order" next time she bullies me, so she knows I'm not entirely stupid.
But what if she puts it to the test? Will it work?
I don't really want to go to court, in case I end up with worse access.
I can't talk to any of her family members, as that will totally blow up in my face.
Is there anything I can do?
Hi and welcome
I would personally not drop in PSO or anything like it as it will provoke her further. I seems to me that the best way forward at the moment is to look at mediation to find a way forward without having to resort to the courts.
I'd agree with actd, as you have managed to gain a good level of contact I would recomend maybe mediation, and then getting what ever is agreed written into a legal document rather than court.
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