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i was in a relationship for 5 years got a daughter who 4 and a son 17months we split up 3 months ago because for 8 months she was on chat sites chatting to guys i then found out she was having guys round the house with the kids in bed. just having [censored] with them in my eyes it was putting the kids at risk cause these guys was strangers on chat sites she not know them to well.1 of the guys i knew and he a druggie drinker just after women i not know for how many guys she had at house i know of 2. 1 time i went in house to get some clothes had phoned her first to ask as she out and went in to her bedroom and found a used condom on bedside table the house was a mess my kids could of picked that up any time and stuff i feel she has lost her ways . when we had our son she suffered with pnd she went docs and councilling not sure if she still got it abit i have thought about social services but am scared i do not have a place where the kids could come and stay if they did find it not right. she not a bad mum but think something is wrong or do you think it just me cheers
Hi
I would consider contacting social services if you think you can't talk it through together, as potentially, you children could be at risk, though you must expect that your ex will have male friends and not always ideal ones. The purpose of thesocial services is not to get the children taken away, but to provide support and to look after the interests and welfare of the children. It may be worth having a word with them (possibly an anonymous chat first off if they will allow it) to see what their views are - however, be prepared that your ex isn't going to take kindly to this.
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