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hi
i have an ex girlfriend who i have a little boy with that i love too bits me and the ex split due too her sleeping around and with family members for the last year it completley destroyed me wen i caught her in bed with a total scum bag i had too move and leave my job left everything of mine there and now she being a total cow when im currently going self employed starting new and fresh with someone else and she is still trying too control me and manipulating me getting me too feel sorry for her bt i end up falling for it i give him money when i can afford it bt money is tight due too setting up a business for a 23 yr old its hard and now shes using my son as a weapon against me saying i cant see him when i have been traveling on a train which costs me over 40 pound too get too her everytime bt i dnt complain goin all the way too pick him up i was supposed too see him this weekend i see him every 2 weeks i am starting too give up bt not quite there yet but what can i do?
its not fair that the women get away with everything and the dads just get chucked in the gutter
Hi Fenton.
You are in a situation lots have us have been in, you try to move on with your life and the ex doesn't like it so tries to control what you do, the only way they can do this is through our children.
You have got rights and can sort this though, start by suggesting mediation to try and come to an agreement between the 2 of you as to when you see your son, if you can manage this you can have a solicitor write this into a legal agreement and if she breaks it you can ask a judge to enforce it.
The 2nd option is to apply top the family court for a contact order, I would only go this way once you have tried mediation (or at least tried to get her to agree to it) you can apply to the family courts for a contact order for £200 and then represent yourself all the way through saving the cost of the solicors fees.
Darren
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