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why do ex wives use kids to get everything their own way...twist situations to poison kids minds to the facts....I know understand how some fathers out there chose not to see their children....sometimes it aint worth the [censored] you need to wade through to get to them.
i love my kids more than anything but honestly the constant bs i need to endure takes the excitement away from spending time with my kids....[censored] has worn me down...feel like giving up.
anyone else got the ex from [censored]...please let me know im not the only one....
Hi Gordy,
Your not alone, i'm sure we wouldn't be on this site if you were :unsure:
I have had 3 years of issues from my ex, I'm not saying I maybe haven't caused some of them through things i've done, all I have done is learnt from them and ensured I don't make mistakes again.
I get everything from trying to swap weekends (this isn't possible as I work the weekends I don't have my son and she knows this) to swapping meeting points as it suit her better even after a meeting point was agreed, it didn't matter to her that changinbg meant I had to travel 10 miles up the motor way just to return back another 10 miles as long as she got what she wanted.
You have to learn to laugh at the petheticness (if thats even a word) of what they do, and to a certain extent i actually feel sorry for her, as the only thing she has left over me is our son, she has lost her control over when I see him so she tries to disrupt this as much as she can, I now think of what she may do and am ready for it.
It's like playing a game at the end of the day, but the most important thing is not giving up on the children involved as none of this is their fault, I know where your coming from on this view though as I felt the same at a few stages throughout the proccess.
Keep going and good luck.
Darren
Gordy, I lived with my ex and daughter until 9 days ago, haven't seen my daughter since, feels more like 9 years! She is using my daughter as a weapon against me to hurt me more than to get what she wants.
You are not the only one and its absolutely sick, mothers who do this are not mothers at all. Mothers and Fathers care about their children, not silly games. Whatever you do, do not give up! Let her play her games and don't join in. She will get bored. Find a way to see your kids with limited contact with your ex, there's loads of legal help out there, kids need their Dads and I'm sorry she is putting you through this. You are certainly not alone and I know how my life has been in the short time I have not seen my daughter, it is the most painful experience in the world. Well done for not giving in, you'll get there!
I have two ex's - the first I get on extremely well with and is more like a sister than an ex. The second, and the mother of my children isn't so much the ex from [censored], I think she was in charge there 😆 Having said that, her life is now pretty much destroyed by her own actions, though of course she blames everyone else, especially me.
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