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Hello all,
Wife chose to leave after I discovered her affair. Now she wants her 12yo son and our 7yo daughter with her. I need to fight that with all my might. Her adultery partner is a DJ, and I have known of her and his involvement with the drugs and drinks and other licentious excesses of the clubbing scene. I have been advised to have a private detective investigate other man's past. Can you suggest key things to look for in his background, to give concrete support to my claim that the environment into which the woman is seeking to take the kids is not conducive to childhood, parenthood and contributing to moral health?
(E.g. why does the guy go under two different names? Neither is a flashy "stage name". Have there been convictions or allegations relating to drugs, weapons, statutory rape, tax-evasion (cash in hand), benefit-fraud (working while claiming benefits), or any other/serious crimes? Is he known to Child Services, or on the wrong end of CCJs, the CSA, or the immigration authorities? Etc..?)
Any experiences using a PD/PI for this purpose -- and the information gathered in such a way -- would be most gratefully received.
Thanks and regards,
igiiroko.
I've had no experience of a PI, but I would have thought that he would have a good idea what to look for. Who has suggested this to you though? Does sound like it could cost you a fair bit - I'd be inclined to have a word with the social services first, he may be known to them anyway.
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