Hi my ex has said I have upset my daughter and crushed her dreams. My 9 year old Daughter says she wants to beat the Mens 100m Running World Record when she is older. I am my daughters biggest fan, spend time with her doing stuff she loves and truly believe she can do anything she sets her mind to.
However I do not think it is right to lie to her and say she could set a new Mens world record. I did qualify the facts by saying past 50 miles women can and have competed successfully against men at the highest level. I also stated she could get good enough to beat 95% of men but not the World champion level and that she should concentrate on setting the Fastest time for a Women ever run.
Was I wrong should I have just encouraged her???
Hi There,
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I guess that this is a difficult one, when children are young all encouragement is good, but as you have said when it's not realistic, it can be difficult to go along with.
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I guess the best way could have been to say, "well set your sights on the womans record and then see how far off the mens you are" so you aren't dashing her dreams but also not giving false hope.
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We don't always get things right and we do what we think is best at the time, not sure how I would have reacted.
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GTTS