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Hi
i need some on how much i can see my kid's we was married and i ended the relationship then 3 moths laster i'm told she was having my baby not she had the little girl but all i can see she id 1hr a week on a coffee shop this right seam a but poor i pay over £500 pm to the CSA she is still under six months so that might be why ??
Sorry can you clarify in your post what your trying to get across? It seems a bit gibberish for the last part, If your paying over £500 PM this will be to take into acct the number of kids you have (you don't mention it) as a rule it's 15% of your annual salary for 1 child then 20% if theres two 25% for 3 or more. The age of the kids dont come into it. They will take into acct any O/T time etc and ask for 3months worth of wage slips to calculate costs etc so if you've had O/T in each of these months they will add it up you'd need to show previous months etc to back up that the O/T wasn't a regular feature.
Seeing your kid(s) has nothing to do with the amount of money you pay against how long you spend with them. Why is your Ex onlyallowing supervised contact once a week? Have you tried mediation failing that go to court and submit a C100 form will cost £200 and self rep at court plenty of info in the legal eagle section.
Say to mum that you want to build up the amount of time gradually, with her there to begin with. Ask if it is possible to meet up 2 times a week, then 3. Then increase the 1 hour per visit to 2. Once you are seeing her for 2 hours 3 times a week, she will most likely be familiar enough with you to not get distressed away from her mum. Suggest taking her to the pet shop to see the fish or something quick to begin with, and say you will meet her in 10-15 minutes nearby. Then gradually build up from here.
I understand it is frustrating, but it's best to avoid court if possible. If she refuses any of this without giving you an imminent time scale or reason, then apply to mediation and go from there.
It is good that mum isn't completely stopping contact so you want to avoid that happening, and it may be this little amount of contact at the moment as she is still tired/having sleepless nights so on.
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