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We were together for around 6-7 years we had a son who is now 3, we split up when he was around 2 and since then she asked me to move in to see if things could work out.
Well during this time she fell pregnant and now I feel trapped and do not want to be in this relationship as it making me feels very low and upset.
I am a very good dad to my son and have a very close relationship with him and am afraid I won't be able to have that same relationship with my new child unless I stay with my partner. Of course staying with her is killing me inside.
My father left me and my five other siblings and he is not a god father at all in any way, and my mother is an alcoholic, I just don't know what to do as I want to be a good father and walking out feels to much like me becoming my own dad.
I don't expect any answers here just would like to read your comments
Thanks
I know someone with a similar situation. They had a son but split up when he was like a year and a half. In between his visits, he got his ex pregnant. I dont know how they deal with the situation but I know they're friends, for the sake of their kids.
Hi Geordie
Sounds like a really hard choice on your part. I think you need to think about why having a second baby in the picture makes you feel trapped in a relationship that you already have a child through.
Can you and the mum to be sit down and talk stuff through? Maybe even a session with a Relate counsellor would help you both find the best path for you both and the children.
lastly you are not your father 🙂 and your choices are not based on him or the choices he made. You have the ability within you to be a very differant dad simply by choicing to engage with your kids.
All the best bro - do talk more if you need to.
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