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hi, me and my girlfriend has just had a baby,
we live with her parents, she wont let me take him or, not even to the shops,
i have to wait untill she can be bothered,
when i go and visit my family at home, and my girlfriend is at hers she will always dump the baby on her mum and her mum will then do everything, as my girlfriend is rather upstairs faffing about or just cant be assed, until i get back,
do i have right to just take him out?
Hi stueyylad and welcome to the forum 🙂 )
In my opinion, you are best talking it through with your girlfriend, otherwise you are likely to fall out in a big way, which won't help anyone. Communication is always the best way if possible.
i have tried talking to her. asking her why and when can i..
but all i get is excuses
its to cold, i want to wait for a bit, hes only a week old.. but shes fine going out with him :S
Hi stueyyladd
With the baby only a week old, your girlfriend's hormones are going to be all over the place, and her mother is going to feel very protective to both your girlfriend and your baby. You are going to need to have a lot of patience at this stage, and not be confrontational. Perhaps the first step is to try to do more with your girlfriend and your baby together, and then build on that.
Hopefully, other more recent dads will pop on and give you some advice and the benefit of their experiences.
Hang on in there, it will be worth it in the end.
Hi mate
Just thought I would stick my 2 pence worth in here.
We just had our little lad 3 weeks ago and for the first couple of weeks my wife didnt really want anyone else to hold him, she didnt really wanna leave the house or see anyone. However, all of that is natural. If you think about it, she just squeezed another human being out of her! There's bound to be all kinds of emotions going on and it's only right she'll want to spend most of her time with this person she's felt moving around for her for the last 9 months.
Hang on in there, it will get easier. Try talking to her, tell her you want to help and be supportive, maybe suggest that your family come to you to visit rather than take the baby out to see them.
Let us know how you get on
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