To cut a long story short.
Me and my ex had a baby boy he is 6 months old. We recently broke up because I had manic depression as I have just found out I have a mild form of bi polar. I had an episode. We had a massive argument, to which I have moved out.
When It all calmed down she refused me to see him. So I picked up the rest of the stuff from the house. With only to see she had packed her bags and ran away with his passport and hers.
I got worried about this so I rang her hundreds of time to see where she was with my son. Then I had a phone call off the police saying that I am harassing her.
Then a week later I seen my son in her dads house. She said I have to have supervised acess to my child. Which I think is bang out of order.
I haven't seen my son for 3 weeks now as she won't let me see him. She is making excuses and says I can see him on certain days but knows full well I'm in work on those days.
I have agree supervised for 12 weeks as I did go a bit crazy. But there is no flexibility from her. I don't want to go to court as it's not far on him. But if it carries on there will be no other option to do so.
Can someone give me some advise.
Does he the power to make it supervised?
Thanks for reading
Jamie Thomas
Hi there
I think you've done the right thing by agreeing to supervised contact for a short period, I know it seems unfair but if you were to go to court, I feel pretty sure that they would expect contact to be supervised until they could get insight into the problems you were having.
Mental health can strike any of us at any time, as long as its well managed, it shouldn't effect your relationship with your child, you may have to jump through a few more hoops, but as long as you are focussed on what's best for your child , things should move forward.
My advice would be to give the supervised contact a go, if you can't agree on a schedule for contact, you could try mediation, or suggest to your ex that contact takes place supported in a Contact Centre, that might help to get days and times fixed and give you some time with your son without her or her family around. Here's a link to the contact centre website
www.naccc.org.uk
As it stands, without a court order, your ex can pretty much call the shots, so if you feel that the situationwnt settle down, you would need to attend mediation before you could make an application to court.
All the best
Hi There,
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I think it's good that you have realised that you went a little over the top, with things, this means that you can try and make the changes to ensure that you don't go back to that place, and hopefully you will be able to keep things a bit more settled between you.
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As Mojo has said unless you can agree you would need to attend mediation before you could apply to court, so as suggested you could try and see if your ex would attend now before it gets that far.
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Again I agree that there would be a strong chance that A judge would support the plan of supervised at leasst to start with so it's good that you have accepted this.
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GTTS