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Hi all.
Before my son started school i used to have him every day 10 in morning to 2pm the next day (as i'm slef employed i can work round having my son) this has been going on for 2 years when suddenly my ex says when he starts school he needs routine and will live at her house and i will become a weekend dad !
In your opinion
would the court see this as unsettling from a routine ?
Or
Stick to what the mother says and have him living with her ?
Thank uyo
This is where your life gets thrown out the window. My friend has this same problem. I had it when I was young. The court will say to have your child half the time, but I know with my dad it was better for my childhood if he left. I still saw him at weekends but as I grew older I saw him fortnightly. I think it is important that you see your child every weekend, but I also think that because the mother should have one day of the weekend because the week is stressful for the mum so they still need atleast saturday. I know it's hard but monday to friday is the boring hard time, but a mum is needed more than a dad so monday to friday the mother should have the child. The mum then needs one non stressful day with her son so you should be allowed to have only sunday. It is not what the courts think, but a childs opinion, and I know for a fact and first hand experiance that children need routine.
I hope that helps and answers your question.
Hi, thanks for you input, but you say
'but a mum is needed more than a dad'
In my case i was brought up with my single mum and she did a good job, i saw my dad one day a week.
I want my son to have both parents, my ex will put him in designer gear and expensive trainers but 'forget to brush his teeth' hence rotten teeth at 4 years old in my eyes this is not good parenting, and last night my son told me he does not have a tooth brush at mummys!!
SO i would say it depends on the situation rather than mums are best at looking after kids...
I want to be super dad for my son 😉
peace out
Hi, its a difficult one when they start school. Do you live close to the school, can you take him and pick him up, My routine with my ex which worked for 10 years, (he now tells us lol ) we had , week one Pick up from School Monday take to school tuesday, Pick up from school friday take to school monday.. week two pick up from school wednesday take school Thurs pick up from school Thursday take School Friday, it worked for us and he used to go to after school club, breakfast club and Judo football on sunday, what ever parent had him did his routine.
My other son is going through the courts to get over night contact and shes so controlling, she also as moved 100 miles away and he works night shift so is contact is going to be very difficult in Sept when she starts school , its all ready a night mare trying to organise 2 days a month, I just cant understand why people make life so complecated. Children have a right to two parents.
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