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i feel a bit alone, ive got twins, but have struggled to be happy since they were born, dont know who to talk to, my wife is a wonderful mum but things are not the same between us. i cant concentrate at work and cant be bothered with anything. theres a lot more too this than i can talk about now. i'd be grateful if someone wants to help me cos at the moment i cant see a way of being happy.
Bud, you sound like ur having a tough time!
Would love to chat some more about how ur doing.
Sounds like having the twins has changed things - which at one level is a totally normal thing - but hear how you don't feel happy in the midst of it.
I know when our kids were born it left us physically worn out, which affected our relationship, [censored] life and ultimately my general level of movitation esp. At work. I guess it must be double as tiring having twins?
Have you and your partner been able to talk about it? Would it be possible to get a sitter and go out for the evening to both have some fun, but also get some of this off ur chest?
Do post again - would love to hear more, and listen and hopefully give some helpful reflections.
Look forward to talking further.
Buzz
Hi john man
Mate this might sound a little "out there" so hear me out but its not uncommon for dad as well as mums to suffer from post natal depression. I know its mostly women we hear about when it comes to this but 1 in every 25 dads suffers from it to some degree or another. Mate talk to your GP and get him/her to listen to you or talk to the health visitor, they are here for you too.They will help you work out how you feel and whats going on around you.
Being a dad to twins is no mean feat - having my boys come singley and 16 months apart was hard enough.
Happy to talk more if you want to - I don't have twins but like Buzz says only too happy to listen and help dude. You're not alone. 🙂
Check these article out or google post natal depression in men.
http://www.menshealth.co.uk/Health/post ... -in-men/v3
http://www.babyworld.co.uk/information/ ... n_dads.asp
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style ... 37010.html
Hi John man
thanks for the private message - i hope you got my reply although it still seems to be sitting in my outbox! Hence me posting this so you don't think i'm ignoring you dude!
If you haven't got it then post here and i'll try again - hope all is well and that the footie was a bit of a stress relief last night bro
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