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I’m struggling with how my ex is handling our divorce settlement. I believe most men wouldn’t have settled in the way I did, and I’m seeking validation that my experience is not the norm and that my decisions greatly benefitted her as an attempt to make amends. I take full responsibility for my mistakes; I cheated and was a bad husband.
We each owned 50% of a successful business and valuable real estate, and while we had attorneys and faced potential litigation, I chose to give her everything. I signed over my business ownership without receiving anything in return and transferred both houses to her free and clear. She profited significantly from these assets.
When I told my attorney my intentions, he warned me that the judge might see it as unfair. I wanted to make amends for my past and prioritize our children. However, her treatment of me post-divorce has led to regret. She seems to believe I owed her everything, overlooking my contributions.
I sought acknowledgment that most divorces don’t end this way. My actions were not driven by a desire to be a "great guy," but by genuine remorse. Her lack of appreciation for my sacrifices has intensified my feelings of regret.
I’ve faced financial struggles as a result of this, and I wish I had stood up for myself. If I’m being ungrateful or misguided, please let me know. I appreciate any feedback. Thank you!
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