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Hello, new member here.
In short. I split with my ex partner (never married ) 1 year ago, and have helped to set her up in a new house, by contributing to the mortgage deposit
However, she is now asking for more money (for payments, house repairs etc) It was verbally agreed I would not be liable for any of this, only child maintenance payments, in which I am paying over 15% above the legal limit.
Although I am relatively safe legally, I am receiving messages almost daily asking for more money, saying things like " I am bringing up your son" "This is for your son" (in relation to changing a water tank, repayments etc..)
Admittedly, I have been weak in even agreeing to anything but child maintenance in the first place, but as I am sure some of you will sympathise with, when your son is involved, sense goes a little awry.
How do I deal with this? Any aggressive action from my side will (for a time anyway) result in getting less time with my son. I don't want to involve expensive solicitors
hi,
it does sound like a difficult situation. if you reject her demands for money, then she will likely restrict your access to child, which is unfair on both of you. if that happens then good news is you don't need to use expensive solicitors. you can self represent with the right guidance. the courts treat child contact and finances as 2 separate issues. using either as leverage is categorically wrong. your first step I suggest is mediation. you can book a miam appointment and take it from there. if you need advice along the way, you can contact me. sending you private message.
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