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Hello, new member here.
In short. I split with my ex partner (never married ) 1 year ago, and have helped to set her up in a new house, by contributing to the mortgage deposit
However, she is now asking for more money (for payments, house repairs etc) It was verbally agreed I would not be liable for any of this, only child maintenance payments, in which I am paying over 15% above the legal limit.
Although I am relatively safe legally, I am receiving messages almost daily asking for more money, saying things like " I am bringing up your son" "This is for your son" (in relation to changing a water tank, repayments etc..)
Admittedly, I have been weak in even agreeing to anything but child maintenance in the first place, but as I am sure some of you will sympathise with, when your son is involved, sense goes a little awry.
How do I deal with this? Any aggressive action from my side will (for a time anyway) result in getting less time with my son. I don't want to involve expensive solicitors
You could try using a mediation service to try to reach an agreement. There are some guides on the advicenow.org.uk website which might help. Her entitlement is likely to depend on her financial input into the family home. If she reduces access to your son then you may have no choice but to apply on a C100 to the courts to get an order. In the meantime there is a parenting agreement on the Cafcass website which you could shape to your circumstances. There is also the free parenting after separation guide which you will find at the top of the page.
hi, so your paying her maintenance as a private arrangement and not via CMS? if that's the case, a common way to put these issues to bed is you open a CMS case as a paying parent. then you pay the legal statutory amount, and she it not entitled to any extra amounts.
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