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Hi Dads,
would anyone be able to give me some advice on steps to take and experiences with dealing with finances post separation please?
Situation is joint mortgage, child maintenance, benefits.
mom has moved into rented accommodation and put in a claim for CM. She can not claim benefits because her mother has money in account in her name (substantial amount of money) so she is over the threshold for UC. However she is using her mother’s money also to live, comfortably. Dad wants to buy her out of the house but she is refusing to discuss, so Dad paying the mortgage alone in full. I believe she is legally responsible to pay half.
We are in the process of arranging mediation but she’s made an allegation via the police which means can’t have contact with her whilst they carry out investigations. I believe we can arrange staggered mediation.
she has completely shut down, blocking third parties who attempt to try to mediate to resolve child arrangements and finances.
any advice would be greatly appreciated
thank you
Hi,
you can try contact a mediator to arrange mediation. initial appointment for yourself will cost about £100. check if mediator offers the free £500 mediation vouchers. if she rejects mediation, then you can apply to court to resolve both issues. feel free to get in touch if you need advice. sending you private message.
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