I have already posted but thought it best to post here as it relates to financial disclosure. My wife and I exchanged Form E yesterday and she has told a blatant lie. She claims she owes £300,000. I know this is not true and she paid back this loan when her uncle passed away. I also remember it was for £350,000. However, the £50,000 was loaned a year later. Her uncle also loaned her money to purchase a vintage caravan. She told me it was more of a gift and she would only be paying a nominal amount back to him. She pays £10 a month to his wife. So she is claiming this £10 is to pay back the £300,000. She has calculated the months and deducted that from the £300,000. She is claiming she still owes £298440. I am shocked, angry , hurt and amazed that she has lied. I think she has forgotten that she told me she had to pay it in full when he died. It was quite complicated. I seem to recall she was gifted £300,000 from his wife , then she paid it back to her. She also did not disclose her credit card statements yet she pays the balance in full every month. She pays money into a savings account that she has not disclosed. She states she wants to sell the marital home so we can buy something each which I was quite shocked about. She also wants me to sell my flat which I kept and have a clean break. She has an investment property as well. I found paper work that she has another credit card which she has not disclosed. I feel very confused . Is she really that stupid to lie and think she will get away with it or is she planning something/backup plan? it is all so deceitful I cannot get my head round it.
Do you have a solicitor acting for you? If not, you may find the guide on the www.advicenow.org.uk website: 'A survival guide to sorting out your finances when you get divorced' helpful. There are other guides which might be relevant such as 'a survival guide to divorce or dissolution of a civil partnership'. However, it does sound as though you could do with some advice
If you have a barrister for the hearing then they will point out to the judge that this is tactical and that she's trying to make herself look poor in the hope of getting a bigger share of the pie. If you don't have a barrister then you'll have to make that point yourself, and strip out the £298,440 from her liabilities. Either way, it's a soft loan (to/from family and friends) which courts take into account much less than hard loans (from a financial institution).
Thank you for replying. I am in shock. I clearly do not know this woman. I wonder what else lies in store for me?