I have already posted but thought it best to post here as it relates to financial disclosure. My wife and I exchanged Form E yesterday and she has told a blatant lie. She claims she owes £300,000. I know this is not true and she paid back this loan when her uncle passed away. I also remember it was for £350,000. However, the £50,000 was loaned a year later. Her uncle also loaned her money to purchase a vintage caravan. She told me it was more of a gift and she would only be paying a nominal amount back to him. She pays £10 a month to his wife. So she is claiming this £10 is to pay back the £300,000. She has calculated the months and deducted that from the £300,000. She is claiming she still owes £298440. I am shocked, angry , hurt and amazed that she has lied. I think she has forgotten that she told me she had to pay it in full when he died. It was quite complicated. I seem to recall she was gifted £300,000 from his wife , then she paid it back to her. She also did not disclose her credit card statements yet she pays the balance in full every month. She pays money into a savings account that she has not disclosed. She states she wants to sell the marital home so we can buy something each which I was quite shocked about. She also wants me to sell my flat which I kept and have a clean break. She has an investment property as well. I found paper work that she has another credit card which she has not disclosed. I feel very confused . Is she really that stupid to lie and think she will get away with it or is she planning something/backup plan? it is all so deceitful I cannot get my head round it.
Do you have a solicitor acting for you? If not, you may find the guide on the www.advicenow.org.uk website: 'A survival guide to sorting out your finances when you get divorced' helpful. There are other guides which might be relevant such as 'a survival guide to divorce or dissolution of a civil partnership'. However, it does sound as though you could do with some advice
If you have a barrister for the hearing then they will point out to the judge that this is tactical and that she's trying to make herself look poor in the hope of getting a bigger share of the pie. If you don't have a barrister then you'll have to make that point yourself, and strip out the £298,440 from her liabilities. Either way, it's a soft loan (to/from family and friends) which courts take into account much less than hard loans (from a financial institution).
Thank you for replying. I am in shock. I clearly do not know this woman. I wonder what else lies in store for me?
. Hello again I have been a bit low. I need to produce evidence to support evidence that she has lied . I have that . So much more has happened. She is now saying that she will allow me to stay in the FMH. She is saying that she accepts she does not have the liability she claimed she had. She wants us to divorce to protect inheritance . This whole situation is draining me. Is there any one else in this situation?
I would seriously consider getting profession legal advice, even if it's just for guidance if you want to do the work yourself. With the sums involved, you stand to lose a lot if you get it wrong.