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Hi
my 2 kids live in finland.
im self employed and just about manage to keep afloat myself.
i was just wondering if there was any help for loving dads like me.
i pay maintenance, and i visit once or twice a year for a week.
its expensive. and next year i dont think i will be able to afford it.
there must be some way i can get help.
to be honest i also wonder if the mother has some legal requirement to make it easier for me too
help
Hi Joe and welcome.
I'm afraid there isn't really any help - if you are paying via the CSA (or using their formula) then any travel costs over £15 per week (so £780 per year) can be taken into account when calculating your maintenance payments, but that's assuming it's all under UK rules.
Is there any way you can come to any agreement with your ex to pay less so they can keep in contact?
hi
well, i am paying throught eh finnish system which i dont totally understand the ins and outs of but it is about 280 euros a month for the two of them.
theres no way she would agree to a reduction.
im lost, cant see any other way i can see them more than i can afford which is mayne once a year if im lucky.
just doesnt seem fair
didnt hold out much hope on things improving, just thought id post this and see if anyone has any ideas
One other option - again depending on the circumstances, but would your ex agree to them coming over to this country for a week? I just wonder whether you could get cheap flights for them and whether this would be less than the cost of you flying over and, presumably, staying in a hotel for a week.
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