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Hi
I have an 11 year old son and I have split up with his mother, we no longer live together. We were never married. We now live separately and we have joint custody of our son. I work 4 days on, 4 days off, so one week I have him more, the next week she does. She claims all the single parent tax credits and child allowance despite her having a better paid job than me. I am struggling for money and I also have to pay her child maintenance each month. She also has her partner living with her but he supplies another address to the authorities to get round that issue. I live alone with one income and am seriously struggling financially. Please help 🙁
If you are paying according to the CSA calculator, then there isn't a great deal you can do to reduce the payments unless you can come to a family based arrangement, but that effectively means she is voluntarily taking less money.
If she is cheating on benefits, then you have the option to report her to the benefits office (you can do this anonymously) but that won't do anything to reduce your payments.
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