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Hi there,
I'm starting divorce proceedings with my wife.
Through solicitors we agreed between us for me to pay the CSA rate of 15% of my salary to my 2 year old son, dating back to when she walked out 3 months ago, I have done so thus far with no issues.
However, I'm about to leave my current employer, and as we are in the early process of divorce proceedings (I've submitted the petition, but not the Form E declaring finances just yet, this is set for the 2nd week of January, so the court hasn't even determined if she is entitled to spousal support etc) I'm not sure what to do, as I cannot afford the child maintenance payments or any potential spousal support asked of me until I find my next employment.
We don't have much equity, a house with a deed in my name, but I expect it will be split in the middle, so my question is, when I notify my solicitors of my pending exit from my job, what will happen?.
My main concern is my wife's attempt to take the payments from somewhere else (not that I have anywhere else, except the equity from the house once it's sold), can she target anything else while I'm looking for work?.
I keep thinking as it is income based, and I have no income she would need to wait until I get another job, afterall if I have no income I simply can't pay what I don't have, but just worried if there is something else she may go after until then..
Thanks,
Julian
Hi Goblin634257,
It's a bit of a mess, got a verbal offer for something else, handed in my notice, and my position was filled while I was waiting for the paperwork, but the new job fell through, so I'm locked out as it were.
I probably would have walked sometime down the line anyway in truth, as stress within my current role (and in no small part to my own chaotic life since this legal threats began in October) is making it real hard for me to effectively carry out my daily project work.
Thanks,
Jules
No, it's just an agreement between us two done through solicitors, but thus far I've been paying the CSA rate (15% of salary for our son)...
I guess it's still early in the process (I've only just started divorce proceedings and sent out my Form E), so we'll see :unsure:
I would say that you continue to pay at the CSA rate, which if you are on benefits, is #5 per week if you are on benefits, and zero if you have no income at all. The worst your ex can do is to go through the CSA, who will assess you for exactly that. However, as soon as you start earning, make sure that you pay the increase - as always, make sure the reference on the payments is "child maintenance"
I will do many thanks actd, who knows, she may come to her senses and realise I'm between jobs, but all the same, it's good to know what my options are, thanks again.
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