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hi,
if court order states that you have them this coming weekend, and she does not allow it, then I think you should enforce the order. wait for this weekend to come and go. if you dont see your child, then apply for enforcement next week. you have given your ex plenty of warnings i take it.
Yes very polite ones all by text asking her not to be silly just get abuse back cheers Steve
Sounds like it's time for you to enforce the order, she's just trying to do what she wants and mess you about as best she can.
As Bill says...see how this weekend goes and apply to enforce order (Form C79) if contact is denied again.
I used the three strike rule with my ex.
Strike 1 - request she reinstate contact as per the court order (politely)
Strike 2 - request she reinstate contact as per the court order with warning that failure to do so will result in you being forced to ask court to step in (politely)
Strike 3 - Apply to court for enforcement and tightening up o f the order with penalties should it be broken again
Be careful about how you message and contact your ex from now on...she could try to claim you're harassing her, keep copies of every message between you for evidence for enforcement.
Hi and thanks I do that as a matter of course anyway. I have spoken to social services because I am concerned how this will affect my daughter they said I wasn't left with much choice and gave me a number for free legal advice it's a local McKenzie friend who when I spoke to was very matter of fact saying it's time to sort her out etc whilst I am not disrespecting his knowledge his stance came across as a little aggressive and that goes against all the previous advice I've been given is this more pro active stance what is needed? I dont want to give the court the wrong impression? Steve
hi,
maybe the mckenzie guy is speaking from experience or maybe he wants paid work. you should get in touch with him again after your next contact weekend, and depending on outcomes.
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