[Solved] Abuse

Hi just an update I have been aware that my ex has involved my daughters school in some way in her vile accusations apparently saying my daughter needs mentoring over the issues she has regarding contact with me just seems to be a ploy to bolster her allegations to me but obviously concerns me!! The school are fully aware I have PR and I would have thought that that being the case I should of been informed of this not find out off another parent? I may well be wrong on that count but unsure as I have nothing but trouble trying to get parents evening appointments progress reports etc and have done since last year any advice on this would be greatly appreciated thanks in advance Steve

hi,

do not get side-tracked by the ex's allegations. they will only get stupider and just smacks of desperation. i had similar rubbish during my case. ex saying she has got referral for children to have mental health assessments. trying to imply i damaged them emotionally. also told court i have hatred for women. really made a big difference LOL :p :p :p

Hi and thanks my question is should the school have informed me of this and kept me updated regarding this mentoring? I thought unless there were safeguarding issues or a court order saying they didn't have to they had to keep me updated on all aspects in school? Or do I have this wrong? They are constantly blanking me ie no school report no offer of photos no access to tickets for school events and so on, I have been on to them re this and had to get firmer saying unless it was resolved I would take it further. Am I correct or can they with hold this? Thanks in advance Steve

Hi just been catching up on your messages

Re school: are you registered with the school as the father? Ask them for a meeting maybe? You have a right to do this.

Re McKenzie Friends: I would say go with someone who isn't going to charge you for an initial call and see if you have any rapport with them. Anyone who takes a tough / aggressive stance - AVOID. MF's are unregulated and I've lost count of adversarial MF's at court who can aggravate proceedings. Try to get a recommendation if you can.

Re first hearing: Take a brief position statement with you on the day outlining the difficulties you have had, that the mother has not supported contact at all, and should not be placing the emotional burden on the child and that you have lots of text evidence that reflects this. mention the things she is accusing you of, that you outright deny these and are seeking assistance from the court. Keep it to max two pages if you can. To be honest, going to the first hearing alone is usually easy as with these type of cases, it will either get sorted by agreement in one hearing or the court will set a further hearing and ask for reports and statements.

Sorry to hear this has all been going on. Best of luck

Thankyou Yoda it is good of you to take the time to help. I shall do as you have advised at once. One of the things I believe I have to do is turn up for every contact regardless of texts etc saying it wont go ahead as failure to do this is a breach on my part if this is correct do I have to do this right up until court? It's of no inconvenience more from the emotional stand point it's very draining as well as the risk of confrontation. From the latest vile accusations by the ex and can only imagine it will need reports as understandably the court will want it looked into by professional,s that being the case do I ask for interim contact until resolved? Do I ask for the first case to be looked at so a background of things is considered? And would it be wise to ask the court to get the social worker involved again? My thinking being this will be less traumatic for my daughter as she knows them and they her? Makes sense to me but is it wise to ask for these things? After reading many threads on similar cases it seems to be a case of parental alienation with her mother putting nothing but negative reinforcement in my daughters mind do I mention this? Apologies for all the questions but I just want to be prepared for whatever may come many thanks for your time and advice Steve