[Solved] Abuse

you can contact the social worker to see what they say if they work for Childrens Services - if you mean Cafcass - they won't talk with you until the court orders them to do so.

If she says don't turn up, then don't turn up. The last thing you need is accusations of harassment on top of everything else.

Get your application in and deal with it at court.

Thanks Yoda I took the time to ring the local police station and they were very understanding but did point out it could lead to them being called out despite the order, the lady said it's quite common for people to do this in order to claim harassment and obtain something called a non molestation order what is that it sounds dreadful?? She did go on to say that if mother had sent texts saying no contact technically I would be in breach but provided that is sent no reasonable judge would find me in breach for non attendance which makes sense but I know how silly this system thoughts on this anyone?? She added that if no text was sent then I could attend as it would go against me as she would simply say he didn't turn up again this makes sense but I would value any thoughts opinions or experiences so confused many thanks in advance Steve

Quite simple - don't turn up if she sends you a text or email telling you not to. She can't then say you chose not to attend.

If you attend when you've been told not to, she can use this to get a Non-molestation order and apply for Legal Aid.

Just get a court application in. I can't see any other way around it.

Thanks Yoda I put the application in for enforcement last week so just waiting. As you advise I will not attend should she text but as she is doing this on a weekly basis stating times and dates of contact I would have thought should she not send a text then I have to go or she will simply say he didn't turn up that day so breached would this be the case? Therefore no text I have to go or risk that? Sorry for going on but it just seems such a grey area and I just want to do things right. I have also contacted my daughters school regarding this mentoring mum has asked for they were very accommodating I must say and I have an appointment with the head teacher this coming Friday I made it clear that my only wish was to make sure my daughter received any help necessary being stuck in the middle of this farce, I do hope that was the correct approach or will they just assume some kind of admission by me? Seems paranoid I know but that's where this has put me to be honest along with moments of self doubt. Thanks in advance Steve

hi steve,

if she sends you messages with: NO, you will not see your kids. or don't pick them up, you cant see them. then thats good enough reason for enforcement. if you dont live very far, you could turn up to pick up kids. let her know your waiting. if she still says no or no reply, then atleast you tried. but i dont know what your like. in such a situation would you go mental and start banging on her door to let you see the kids? it would look very stupid on her; applying for a non-mol because she breached the court order when you came to see your kids.