[Solved] Access Issues

This is almost exactly how my situation arose. I was not happy with only seeing my boys every Saturday (most of the time this was cut short because of family arrangements, parties, etc) and wanted to discuss overnight stays, seeing as we had been separated almost 2 years and I had hoped she would be starting to deal with it. The thought of them staying with me overnight turned her completely and after applying for a court order, she made up allegations that I was a bully and that the kids were scared of me, probably to buy her some time. Whilst this has all been going on, she has successfully alienated me from the children who have since told CAFCASS they do not want to see me. Almost a year on and without any contact, CAFCASS said there was some evidence of alienation and now I am waiting to see my kids in a supervised environment. The funny thing is now, I would do anything just to get my one day a week back again! I have so far spent almost £5000 but recently let go of my solicitor after the section 7 which thankfully highlighted some of her wrongdoing. Just hoping now that I can reestablish the relationship with the boys in the limited time I have with them during supervised contact, before the final hearing in August.

In summary, my advice? Avoid solicitors - they are simply out to make money for every letter they forward, every email they read and anything else that comes with it all

Avoid solicitors .they can’t do anything You can’t do . Get a direct access barrister and fixed fee work .
All you can do now is be a good parent , keep plugging on through the court process and don’t react to your ex trying to provoke a reaction so she can say look this is what he’s like .whichj is exactly what mine is trying . If you can communicate with them on text , email etc so much the better as you can prove what has actually been said and agreed rather than them making stuff up

Yes I've been doing everything by text, any normal human being will see just how awkward she is making things. Luckily for me, she just thinks whatever she says is right, with very little context behind it. Hopefully that will come across favourably for myself.

Sorting the paperwork for my court hearing this week...start of a long road.

Sounds horrible mate...... not fair at all that women seem to hold all the cards when it comes to this. Hope it all works out for you.

Indeed but this is how the system is as much as its screwed up we have to play the game to get these court orders just to be able to be in our kids lives . It’s a long drawn out process but until you have that paper they’ll always use the kids as leverage . It’s a shame but some people are just like that . The process is very methodical and laid out we have a to go down the line and tick off the stages .. we just have to focus on the kids and the end game which is obv having as much access as we can