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Hi all have just joined and desperate for advice.
Have 8 month old son that has been coming to stay very successfully with me over the past few months. His mother has not come to terms with the split and because of this blows hot and cold ( to suit her moods) re our access.
When she registered him she omitted to tell me she'd done it and although it is without question that he is mine, on the birth cert it has father unknown ! I have approached her to to put me on the birth cert and again moods dictate yes some days and no on others. I have researched and found out that I can get a paternity test and this can be amended ??
I pay for my son off my own back more than the required amount set by the csa on a weekly basis and will continue to do so but all I want is to be able to see him once a fortnight over the weekend and to build a solid and supportive relationship with him.
Tried to sort things out with my ex but am getting nowhere, need things to be more formalised now, particularly as he is young and was thinking of going to a family law solicitor.
What do you think my chances are ?
Hi
I would suggest that before you try anything else, have a go at mediation - your ex may be more amenable to getting things done that she has said she will do if there is someone independant checking on it. www.nfm.org.uk
Hi skope_lon,
Welcome to DAD.info. It's great that you have some access to your son (even if it is dependant on your ex's mood). I can ask Coram Children's Legal Centre to pop by and give you some advice regarding Parental Responsibility and getting the Birth Certificate amended.
They won't post a reply until Monday at the earliest - so keep popping by for their reply.
Rather than considering court - have you considered Mediation ? Check out the National Family Mediation website. A mediated agreement can work better in the long run as the two of you would have come to the agreement yourselves rather than battling through the courts which can be a very adversarial process. Very often a judge will instruct you to go to mediation anyway.
I hope this advice is of help - you sound like a very caring and committed dad.
Gooner.
looks like actd had the fastest fingers this evening :whistle:
Looks like we both had similar advice though :p
Gooner
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