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Hi,
Just wondering if anyone could help with some advice..
myself and my partner had some difficulties etc since our little one was born in january this year - and she hadnt bonded with the baby, I did as much as I could and helped her out aswell as looking after baby.
unfortunately, I could see she was feeling even "lower" as the weeks went by but she wouldnt seek help - on 31st March this year, she absolutely lost it...started lashing out at my whilst I was consoling our son to stop him crying (I had hold of him, walking around our lounge and bouncing him etc)
I pushed her back and away from me to basically protect myself from being smacked everywhere and also her harming the baby. she called the police and claimed I assaulted her, to which I was arrested!!!! she had bruising on her leg near her knee....which, if she was stood up and coming at me etc and I was stood up with a baby in hand...I couldnt possibly of done this!!!! but still, was taken to court...and CONVICTED!!
everything prior to the baby etc was perfect...no issues, nothing - she missed her family who lived 2 hours away and rarely visited...but given the option, she never wanted to move back there as she had a career and life up here.
she has since then, refused to let me see our son...and now due to this conviction, its likely hood of a court allowing me good access is slim to none!
My solicitors are fustrating me as they arent exactly helping to alleviate any concerns or anything and I feel they are too laid back and not pro-active enough....happy to get paid etc....and I just need to know all my options
I will be appealing the conviction - havent received the sentence yet, however I could go to prison for something which is pure lies!!
what else can I do??
Hi welcome along.
I've heard similar to your story where self defense has been taken out of context.
I start to push your solicitors to make progress remember they work for you!!
It is possible that when you go to court for access you may be awarded supervised contact at a contact Centre this may not be ideal but it will give you a chance to see your son and show you are no threat.
Personally I would get onto your solicitors first thing Monday morning and get them moving, as you say they are happy to get paid!!
Darren
Thanks Darren for the reply.
unfortunately, I had to change solicitors at one point due to him not missing 2 appointments, and not even looking at my file or discussing it with me over the phone - and both, him and one of the partners made out that it was me that was causing a problem even though there was only 1 1/2 weeks left at the time till the trial! :/
I changed solicitors but in hindsight, he did nothing to push for me nor did he listen to anything I said - there were loads of discrepancies in the written statements to my ex-partners statements and still......I was found guilty!?!
Although they work for me, its strange that they have relaxed attitudes and not interested in the finer details 🙁
I am considering appealing the decision - someone told me to ensure I pick another solicitor and make sure it is a female acting on my behalf this time! do you think this would be wise? lol
My sister used a firm somewhere in the south and they were animals! and they would be perfect, however they wont travel 300miles to deal with my case 🙁
Hi
I don't know if having a female represent you would be any better than having a guy, but you need to get someone who will work for you and do what's needed, when it's needed. They do work for you and they should be do the best they can to get your situation sorted out.
I wonder if citizens advise could recommend a good firm in you area?
i'll try that thank you - I went for a recommended family law firm in my area through word of mouth - however, the solicitor has done very little...and doesnt respond to emails or phone calls. :-/ it seems as though I may have to do just that and speak to citizens advice and see if they can help identify a good firm willing to do whats needed.
all this is adding years on me!! haha!
I'm sure it is, although our stories are all different your amongst people who have been through tough times,
There's lots of support on this Site as I found when I joined about a year ago,
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