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My ex and I seperated 5 years ago and we have a 6 year old daughter together... Im now married and have 2 daughters with my wife (i know...iv been buzy)
I have my 6yo 3 days a week...(2 nights over night)
We live in a northern part of Scotland, a few months ago my 6yo started saying that her mum wanted to move to glasgow and that I wasnt to let it happen because she didnt want to go....she was in bits every time I seen her...
when I confronted her mother...I was told that it was all made up and she didnt know where it was coming from..
Now I have just found out that she is indeed planning a move...and she was hoping to keep it from me and just leave with my daughter...
If she moves I will be unable to afford transport costs to pick up my little girl....she would never see me or her sisters...it would be a devastating blow to her childhood....and her mother has made it clear shes not willing to take her up to allow my access...
Does anyone know where I stand legaly...can I legaly stop her from going or enforce her to make payments to cover travel costs... any help would be hugely appreciated.... im in bits....my wee girl doesnt deserve this...she needs her sisters and her dad...it just seems so wrong and I dont know what to do.
Hi Murdoch,
Sorry hear to about your situation.
The law in Scotland is slightly different to what we have in England and Wales, so I don't think the Coram Children's Legal Centre will be of much use.
However Scotland does have a similar support centre called The Scottish Child Law Centre and they offer free legal advice to people who don't currently have a solicitor. Their website is www.sclc.org.uk. Give them a call and explain your situation.
Your situation is not uncommon, but you do have rights. Is there a particular reason why your ex is wanting to move away? New job? Family?
Hi murdoch
I don't think there is anything legally you can do to stop her being taken I may be wrong though.
However as far as I know CSA make allowances for travel to and from where your child lives within calculating what you pay, I don't know if you use CSA but it may worth talking this through with your ex to see if you can can come to an arrangement for reduced child support as you will need to travel if she moves.
I can see how devastating this must be for you and my brother went through similar with his son about 5-6 years ago.
Hope you can sort something out.
Darren
thanks for that..I will defo give them a ring soon. She is moving in with her boyfriend (who lives in Glasgow)
I know she just wants to lead her life but I have to put my daughter before anything else so I hope there is an agreement to be had.
Do you currently have a contact order in place, or was your current level of contact something that you and your ex agreed without court involvement?
How long has your ex been with her current partner?
no...the current level of contact was just agreed between ourselves... she has been with him for around a year I believe.
The fact that your ex has tried to engineer this by stealth makes me think you need to act sooner rather than later. Has she given you a date for the move?
Speak to the SCLC about what options you have.
nope....she has simply said she hasnt made any decisions yet.... but she wont let me buy her school uniform (incase she doesnt need it)
and wont give me a straight answer when I ask for one...
im worried that she's just going to dissapear.... Iv never been difficult with her in any way... dont really understand why she is behaving like this... I just want to keep cool and do the right thing for my daughter whatever it may be.
I will get in touch with them a week tomorrow... im currently at sea ( I work on an oil rig)
john
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