Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: We are not open to new posts at this time
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hi,
I am a father with 3 children (eldest is 10 years old).
I have a court order from a few years ago providing nearly 50/50 care. Have been back to court a number of times because of breaches from the other parent.
I submitted a C79 a few months ago for another breach. The other parent then submitted a C79 to vary the order now the eldest is nearly 11 as she thinks the children want to spend more time with her.
So there's a directional hearing next week. When she disagrees with the alleged breach, and I disagree with the variation, I've been advised the court will then seek the views of the children. This apparently will be through mediation.
My question is, do I have to agree to mediation or can I say no? I am very nervous about having to be in the same room as the other parent. I thought I would have the choice to say no but I may be wrong. Any advice on this in the next few days would be really helpful.
Thanks
Hi,
Courts are pressing parents more to try resolve issues through mediation. So better if you try. Ignoring and refusing would look bad on you and you would appear to be the unreasonable one.
@bill337 thanks so much for the quick response.
I am really concerned.
The other parent is very manipulative.
I have navigated myself through the court system over the last 5 years where I have avoided situations where she can manipulate (eg me using a barrister etc).
I now find myself in a situation where I have no choice but to be in the same room and be manipulated by her. It doesn’t seem right.
In the hearing I have to say no to mediation because I can’t do it. I will look like the unreasonable one and I have done nothing wrong!
@glasgow123 I would contact the mediation company and tell them you don't want to be in the same room, this is quite possible (known as shuttle mediation) so that may make it easier for you.
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
