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Hi all, I realise this isnt the right forum to post this but it seems to be the most active one on these boards - hope that is ok!
Ive been estranged from my wife for 3 years now during which time she has suffered from various mental health issues which caused her not to give the care our 2 children (8 and 5 years old now) deserve and require, however, as she has been living with her parents I knew that at least they were offering the extra support my children needed.
She started a new relationship at the beginning of May and moved in with him full time one week later. In that period, the children have been bathed 3 times at his house, their diet is atrocious (lunch boxes consist of chocolate bar, crisps, yoghurt and a packaged drink) and their dinner lacks any fruit or vegetables.
Last week, I got a phone call at 2am saying that the partner had been arrested for drink driving at 11pm (on a school night) for drink driving whilst the children were in the car with him - my x was working. There are several other factors which have happened but I feel have no choice but to contact someone so that they can monitor my children's care and help keep her on the right track. As much, as I would love to go for full custody of my children I am in the process of starting a new business and will be working 7 nights a week from 3 weeks time. If succesful, this new venture will set me and the children up for the future and I cant not commit to it.
I live in Bournemouth Borough Council, the children and mother are registered as living in the Christchurch Borough Council but they are currently residing in Gosport, near portsmouth. Who can I contact and what can I do?
I have a detailed report covering all events which concern me regarding the children dating back to May 2009 which I would like to submit as the reasons for my concern.
Any help or advice will be much appreciated.
Thanks
Hi CB,
This is a little off my experience I'm afraid, I will ask the childrens legal team to drop in and see if they can help at all with any advice, they can only comment on this if you don't already have a solicitor appointed, can you confirm if you have a solicitor appointed?
Darren
Hi CB
I would say that you need to contact Social Services - there first priority is normally to check on the welfare of the children and to support the resident parent where possible, and this seems to be exactly what you are after.
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