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My wife of 13 years walked out last week with our 2 kids (10 year olds daughter and 2 year olds son). There was no arguement. I just got a text in the evening saying shes back in the midlands at her parents house and wont be coming back. We had been living in Yorkshire. I've since tried contacting her via phone and text but no answer. I've asked that i want to speak to the kids, to which she replied that the courts would see that.
I'm desperatley missing my kids, i've been emailing my daughter and trying contacting her on her ipod but it seems as she may not be able to use these whilst her mum is around.
What can i do?
If i go down the contact order route, what timescales are involved?
My daughter is going to start her sats in September so this upheaval to the midlands will be detrimental i feel from an educational and psychological point of view
Would the courts force my wife back to yorkshire?
Hiya singh, I'm currently in the process of going to court for a contact order. I received my legal funding certificate approx 2 weeks ago enabling legal aid for court so I'm just waiting for my solicitor to come back with a court date. In december 2011 I finally went to see a solicitor about contact (I kept giving my ex chances as she would let me see my son then she wouldnt, then she would and so on and so on etc my son was 9 months old at this time). My first advice is see the solicitor! don't wait and give chances, get the ball rolling.
I tried all the steps from Dec 2011 to March 2012, talking to her, arranging an agreement of days and times for contact between our solicitors, mediation.... She broke the contact agreement (not court order, this was just an agreement I proposed through my solicitor), she refused mediation also. So in April 2012 there was no option left but apply for court contact order. I have not seen my only child since march when he turned 1 year old. I was never violent to her, I never cheated etc. She had been diagnosed with depression and was very up and down but one day turned to me and said I couldnt see my son, I asked and her response was "in case u kidnap him" since March it feels like she is the one who has kidnapped.
So it's been 8 months so far since I started the whole process of seeing the solicitor but if I'd gone to see them when she first started doing this I'd be 2 or 3 months ahead maybe seeing my son by this time. I'll post an update when I have one. All the best.
Hi Singh
Take a look at yojis guide to representing yourself as this will give you some idea of the process involved.
I'm afraid that the only way to get your children back to Yorkshire would be if you could gain residence but with the children living with your ex, it's not clear whether you would succeed. Certainly, the court cannot and would not force her back to Yorkshire.
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