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Hi everyone
Need some advice on what to do,been seperated for 6 months now and we have shared our 9 year old daughter between us for 2 days with me 2 days with her,but now she wants 4 days a week,shes saying that would be best for our daughter,all this comes with the tax benifit people saying i should of been payed the tax b money for the past 4 months and them saying they will pay me,where as my wife has been claiming it,i know shes been coaxing our daughter with things shes been saying and now she says our daughter wants to live with her, should i fight this or just give up i love my daughter more than anything and just want the best for her.
Hi and welcome to the forum
I would say that you are best trying to come to an agreement - I wonder if it's about the benefits, so perhaps you could agree to an arrangement with splitting the benefits and maintenance (and forget the benefits already paid, just concentrate on the future), a family based arrangement would be the way to go with this if you can sort it between yourselves, otherwise the next step would then probably be mediation.
Thanks actd
Have done mediation once and she said no more,i have spoken to my daughter about this and shes cool with 4,3 - 3,4 to try for 4 weeks
and see how it goes,had a text from the wife saying she needs the money to live on and she cannot stop crying about it (yea i'm sure she is) two days before she was having a right go at me about things and now that our daughter has agread to do this shes changed her tune,got to think what to do about the money now,the thing is if she really needs the money then it could affect our daughter and that can't happen,so thanks for the reply and will let you know the outcome whenever. :unsure:
Well further to my post a week ago i've spoke to my brief last friday and we said to offer her half whatever the tax credits were and to pay a £165.00 a month loan she has,with this i set off home thinking its more than the csa would give her only to find a letter of her brief telling me they were applying to court for custody of our daughter,i phoned her and i told her what i could do to help her out with this she said tooooo late my brief has told me not to talk to you about anything,what can i say one day crying poverty the next back to being the [censored] she really is.And i even offerd to pay whatever she had to pay back.
Oh and she left of her own accord.
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