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Issues:
I have three children with my ex partner but I'm not on birth certificate can I get there names changed to mign? Also I pay CSA for them each month.
my ex is a drinker and she goes on binges which I'm really worried about. My daughter is 12 years old and when the ex partner goes on the drink is left to look after my two boys one is 3yrs and the other 2 years old.my daughter has found our seperation hard having behaviour issues at school and the like which is now beginning to get better slowly but she is now starting to lose respect for her mother which I think is due to her mum going on binges and leaving her with the children to much afteral she is still a child.My daughter has expressed these concerns to me and told me not to say to her mum about it what shall I do? I have confronted mum in the past when i used to live there but she doesn't listen at all and gets all angry and or(violent at times) and blames other people for her actions or anything that goes wrong all the time!
I'm currently living back at my mums which I have done since the split 2 years ago but there is limited room.i.e I can't have the children over night etc...I'm currently with a new partner and plan to buy a house within the next year or so which is good.
i just don't know what to do!
...I would certainly think about contacting Childrens Services or the NSPCC helpline, and have a word with the school too if thats possible. Tell them that your daughter has asked you not to let her Mum find out she has told you about being left with her little brothers, and ask them to maintain your daughters confidence in you.
I would talk to your daughter about it, she is old enough to understand that you cant leave the situation once she has told you about it, and that not doing anything about it is the same as saying her Mums behaviour is ok. Perhaps the next time your daughter is left alone she could telephone you and you could go round and be there when the mother returns....you could make up a reason why you called round. Its a difficult situation but one that should be addressed in my opinion.
I've contacted the NSPCC and logged it with them and just waiting to see the course of action that will be taken.Im very nervous about this and dont feel comfortable like I'm anxious.I don't know why because I'm only trying to do write by my children but somehow i'm made to feel the bad one!
Are the NSPCC going to take any action?
Its always hard when you start a course of action and you dont know where it will take you. Just try and remember why you are doing this, its to protect your children. 🙂
The NSPCC will pass the info on to the children's services to deal with.As far as I know they should make a visit etc within 24 hours and contact me to say what has happended or intend to do to help etc....
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