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Hi , I split with my ex last year . We were in rented accommodation at the time , we split our equity and she purchased a house and moved out . I think the pressure of work, parenting and private school fees simply destroyed our relationship. As far as I know no party was seeing anyone else , we were just exhausted and had "grown apart".
We were not married and we have two fabulous boys age 5 and 9 . (I am on the birth certificates as father )
At first it was all amicable . Then, in January this year , she discovered I had been on a few dates with a girl I met through friends.
My question is about school fees and the future ;
I currently pay £100 pcm tuition fees and £1400 pcm school fees ( my ex was due to pay £400 pcm school fees to "top up" )
This arrangement was her idea. Now she wants to back out of it because excessive spending in other areas means she claims she is over-stretched by the £400 pcm commitment .
The £1500 total contribution I make is more than 20% of my nett salary . So ( I'm getting there ....) Is there any risk for me in paying more than 20% of my nett salary ? Am I at risk of being kept at this (high) level by a court if we enter that process in the future ?
I think for both of us the goal is to keep both boys at the independent school because they are happy there and with all the [censored]/turmoil associated with the split and the particular school is a nurturing and caring place for them.
The CSA calculation is 20% of your takehome pay - if the schools are boarding schools, then this amount could potentially be reduced. The only other factor would be whether you have assets (not including your own home) of over 65,000.
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