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Hi all,
I am after a bit of advice.
I currently have no problem seeing my kids (3 yr old girl and a 18 month old boy). My wife allows access to the kids whenever I have a day off and they stay over the days that I have them. But here lies the problem, due to the fact that i have them on every day off I haven't had any time off to myself. Its coming up to a year now and I am exhausted. I spoken to the wife to see if we can come up with some agreement but I just get a no to everything I suggest.
I have just set up a mediation meeting to see if this can get resolved but I am starting to think that its tough that's just how it is.
So my question is:
- Am I being unreasonable?
- Am I right to think I desire some time off?
Thanks in advance
Hi we all need a break so I dont think you are being unfair it sounds like your wife is desperate for a break as well , having two children under 3 is hard work as you know. Do the kids go to nursery ? i put my son in nursery 2 days a week to give me a break and get on with other things, try and think of options to take to mediation. Can you have them say at tea time this will give you chance to have a sleep in .
Thnaks for the response.
Maybe I should explain more.
The kids go to nursey and are at my mum's all week while my wife works.
I work shifts and can work from anytime form 8 in the morning till 10.30 at night. Currently my wife has in a month 2 weekends off and 4 days off during the week, as this is where my days off lie. This gives me not a single weekend off as I either have the kids or I am working.
My solution is to have every 4th weekend off or 2 days off every month and a half. I thought I was being resonable but she says no to everything I suggest, hence the doubt.
ah I see. well i think you deserve a break and i hope mediation helps you both come up with a solution
get a day off don't tell her - unless she is being informed. if you cant look after yourself you cant look after your kids.
she is being unreasonable. she is a bully and im seeing that from a lot of separated people.
are the days you are looking after you children being taken into account if you are paying csa. you could pay less and that could mean you will find it easier at work.
i know why you go to mediation because she is a liar. but you are fair so you get sha$£ed.
no matter what people think, looking after children is a full time job. reasonably does the law make you work 7 days a week.
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